Blah. I'm so sick of people asking me if I'm pregnant...I know I carry my weight in the "baby area" and try as I might, it will not go away. Even when I weighed 115 pounds (years ago) I had a fat stomach. What's even more frustrating about being asked if I'm expecting a baby (by two different people in half an hour) is that I'm trying to make it go away. I'm eating healthier, trying to be a bit more active. I've lost nearly 20 pounds and I was finally starting to feel decent about myself. Then today just killed any confidence I had. When children ask "you got a baby in your belly?" it isn't nearly offensive, children speak their minds, and when I say "Nope, just chubby" they let it go. Adults either awkwardly try to dig themselves out of a hole or make up a weird lie (like, oh I thought Soandso said you were). Or like today, when asked if I was expecting, I just replied "No, I'm just fat" and turned, expecting her to leave it alone. Instead, I got a response of "Oh yeah, food looks good and then we eat it and get fat." Yes, I'm aware of this...but you don't know me or my eating habits...thanks for that though. I turn again to look at a rack of clothes and she won't leave me alone, proceeds to talk about having a hysterectomy and the lumps in her uterus, being 60 and unable to keep up with the 40 year old men she's trying to date and so on. Woman can't take a hint... I tuned her out and kept browsing but she wouldn't leave me alone 'til I just left.
I never ask a woman if she's pregnant, even if it is completely obvious, because I know how crappy it feels when people comment on your weight. (Seriously, people ask me all the time- I hate it.) First off, it's nobody's business if I'm having a baby- if you are a stranger, it doesn't affect you so why do you care? Secondly, when I tell you that I'm just fat, it's not an invitation to further comment on my weight. It's a clue that you need to leave me alone. However, I am too polite to be mean to these people even though I'd really like to tell them off.
So now, I am feeling totally insecure and researching new healthy things and exercises...maybe someday people will mind their own business or I could be thin enough that they won't ask.
